If Someone is Walking Away From You Let Them Walk On.

If someone in your life is walking away from you, then let them walk on. If they are exiting your life, let them leave. Understand that they are not destined to be in your life if they are walking away.

This indeed is a difficult concept for some. Are you conditioned to believe that people are to remain in your life forever. Have you ever told a friend or loved one, "we are going to be together forever." If so, you may have set yourself up for the challenge of letting go. You may have unconsciously put yourself in position to have folks in your life whose time is long gone and you are simply ignoring the signs to evict.

If you are going through a divorce, job loss or break up of some kind it may be time for you to come to the realization that your destiny is not tied to that person or job. Think about it, your destiny can't be tied to someone that left or something that is over. So, let it go. Accept that most people that we befriend, date, work with are meant to be in our lives for a season. You may have a dear friend that only complains or gossips when you speak and you can not share your plans to start your own business or seek that advanced degree. Perhaps you have friends that don't share your ambitions so they are negative haters and downgrade all of your ideas or plans.

You know the difference when you are engaging with someone who is destined to be in your life for a purpose. You know when you walk away from someone if they impacted your life in a positive way. Even if it was a simple exchange of positivity or best wishes. When you hang up from someone that is good for you, it is evident by the smile and sense of satisfaction that you feel. Moreover, you look forward to the next exchange.

What you may not be so clear about is the purpose of the back stabbers and nay sayers. They too serve a role in your life. Those folks teach you to think and process. They teach you not be guided by emotion alone. They teach the need for due diligence. They teach you to listen, I mean really listen. Negative people are very seldom hide who they really are. It usually does not take long for a person with venom to reveal themselves. It is your job to listen to the truth that the people in your life are displaying.

One clear distinction: you can envision your future with someone or situation that is meant to be long term; generally you can't do so in a productive way for those that are not.


The Universe strategically places people and situations in our lives for a reason. One person may be in your life to teach you to trust. Another may have been in your life to show you what it feels like to be loved. Yet another may have been placed in your life to teach you a valuable lesson in taking your time and building a solid relationship based on truth. Any of these relationships at some point made you feel wonderful, that is why you engaged in the exchange. However, it is when your that is over and you don't want to let go that it becomes a problem.

What are the top 10 signs that the season may have passed on a relationship or situation:

1. None or minimal common interests
2. Communication is jagged or non-existent
3. Signs of disrespect are frequent
4. A strong sense of indifference is present
5. The ability to empathize is gone
6. Joy and happiness are depleted
7. Any exchange leaves you empty and no sense of fulfillment
8. The relationship does not make you happy
9. Acknowledgment that you don't like the person or situation
10. Negative emotions are associated at the thought of contact

Begin today, accept that everyone is not tied to you forever. That may include your partner, your job, your best friend and yes, even the love of your life. Learn to let people and situations go when their season is over. Practice looking for the warning signs and more importantly you have to actually apply the application of deleting where and when necessary.

Here is an exercise for you to do today. Get your cell phone, your Outlook contacts, your rolodex or address book. Start with A and work you way down to Z. Yes, this includes Facebook, Twitter etc..Delete the following entries and anyone that:

• You no longer have a positive relationship with
• You don't really like
• You have no interest in knowing how they are doing or what's going on in their life
• Brings you drama or negatively, consistently
• Undermines your success
  
• Is not supportive of your goals and dreams
• Does not move you forward
  
• Does not uplift your spirit
• Does not value you
  
• Is mean to you
• Disrespects you
• Hurts you
• You can't envision a positive future with
  

By no means, am I suggesting that this is an easy process. This process is often painful and may present feeling of failure on your part that you could not maintain the relationship or make it work. You will find that there maybe someone in your life that demonstrates characteristics on the above list but compensate positively in other areas. Only you can gauge when the negative outweighs the good. Just keep in mind that if you are dealing with any of the negative above in your relationship then the other areas should be great not just good or O.K.

Tip: Take small steps if you are not ready for a complete overhaul. Go through your contacts, make a list of those that fit this criteria and write them down. Have a conversation with those that score high in the negativity range. Talk to them about how they make you feel, express your needs and give them the tools to become positive agents in your life. Depending on how close they are to you or how badly you want to keep the relationship, you may consider counseling, a mediator or spiritual advisement.
Give yourself a time limit for their expected change, if they still do not get off that list, then make your deletions.

To speak with a Life Coach on how to embark on this journey in your life contact me.

Yes, Andrea I am ready to make some deletions and I need help!